Saturday, May 7, 2016

You can't be beautiful if your words are ugly

I am increasingly amazed at the decline in the femininity and modesty of school-aged girls and women in general.  With the rise in social media usage and "text language",  I have seen many girls take on the acronyms that would make you blush if you heard it come out of some one's mouth, especially a young lady's.  I have told my own girls that when someone writes or texts an acronym for profanity or an inappropriate phrase you can't help but hear the words in your head and even more in your heart.  They might as well go ahead and write it out or say it out loud.  Sadly, many girls are saying these things out loud.  Where are they hearing these things?  Among friends?  At home?  In movies and television?  All of the above? 

As women of God we must lead by example and teach our young women to be lovely in words, actions, thoughts, and outward appearance.  We are supposed to lead people to Christ by our lives.  We are to be image bearers of Christ.  I know many moms out there who are doing this daily.  They check social media regularly, they pray with their daughters, they lead by example and they talk about true beauty and share scriptures that encourage these behaviors.  None of us are perfect individuals.  None of us are perfect parents.  None of us have perfect children. Together we can lead our girls to become strong women who are beautiful inside and out and who model Christ-likeness.  Grass and weeds can quickly grow under our feet if we do not stay on top of the social media piece of this growing problem.  

Mothers unite.  Help one another.  Pray for your daughter and her friends.  

Check social media.  It is not an invasion of privacy.  It is our job to teach and train our daughters to be responsible and mature in public, in private, on paper, on screen, on text, in life.  

Check responses on social media.

Check acronyms and if you don't know what they mean (like me) then ask or look it up.  Like fashion changes over time that invite girls to be more sexy, speech trends are out of control.  God wants us to be feminine.  We were created to be beautiful, and that begins in our hearts and minds.  

A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.   Luke 6:45

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.  Proverbs 4:23

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.  Philippians 4:8